How many of you have a routine? And how many of you stray from that routine on a day-to-day basis? Even as an entrepreneur, I have to admit that most of my days I run on autopilot. Although I have more freedom to mix-it-up, I often don’t go crazy with it because it would require me to integrate a new layer of identity every day, and that level of continuous personal expansion honestly feels pretty intimidating, not to mention exhausting. Besides that, schedules and routines often make life easier. But, when do our routines become ruts? I have found that when this line is crossed that we start to feel at odds with our best laid plans. Something feels "off", even though everything seems "normal".
As I established in my previous blog post , the typical American body and mind is addicted to processed foods. This has been the not-so-secret intention of multinational food companies; to create foods that raise dopamine levels and leave you wanting more. It’s the same formula with consumerism. We feel like we need to the latest and greatest gadget, car or fashion. We are addicted to plastic consumer products made in sweatshops thousands of miles away. Do you ever look back at that cheap dollar section purchase and feel deep down good about it? Be honest. Or did you buy it in the heat of the moment because it looked cool or your kid was begging for it? These external addictions (stemming from subconscious internal desires) are also what fuel the monotony in life, our routines.
We perpetuate our ruts to maintain the status quo. We stay in jobs we hate to keep the money coming in for the big houses, clothes and the cars, because we think the these external things will make us feel better and satisfy those subconscious desires. We put off getting fit or eating healthy because that would require us to be a new kind of person, and that would take mental stamina and emotional effort to bypass all of the old ways. We sell ourselves on "just enough" or "I'm comfortable" rather than following our true passions.
We have essentially become what our culture assumes we are: biological robots. This showcases the power of beliefs in a concrete way. We live what we believe. If we believe Newtonian physics is the only true explanation for how our bodies heal, we will believe that pharmaceutical drugs are the only thing that will keep all of our moving parts moving the way they are supposed to. If we become open to embracing quantum physics and neuroimmunology research, we begin to understand that there are unlimited energetic forces at play with our bodies/minds/emotions every second of every day. This creates not only the realities we experience, but also multiple other realities we don’t currently perceive. Alternate energetic realities, much like a dog whistle, lie outside of most of our relatable frequencies.
"We begin this review with a series of studies demonstrating how four fundamental emotional responses: anger, anxiety, mirth and relaxation are able modulate cytokine production and cellular responses to a variety of immune stimuli. These modulations are shown to be either detrimental or beneficial to a patient's health dependent on the context and duration of the emotion."
If you have ever really cleaned up your diet, you know that high vibe feeling you get when you are eating real foods. They tune to a different station than processed dead foods. Living nutrition is a major factor in restoring the consciousness outside of our current belief systems. Foods in their pure form, organic and unadulterated, have not only been shown more biologically active and nutritious , but their counterpart, chemically refined and altered foods have been proven deleterious  to human and animal biological systems. A pesticide-free whole foods diet has a way of not only revitalizing your physical health, but there is an energetic domino effect, lifting many other veils in your life. What might you do if a clean diet cleared out your mind and your usual perspective shifted? Would you start making different choices in your life? Would you get that gym membership? Would you take an alternate route to work or stop at a different coffee shop, and who would you meet there? All big change begins with small perspective shifts. The combination of living nutrition and detoxification through physical and mental exercise is the trifecta that will get you from living the robot life to embodying wholeness and the best version of you.
The beginning of the year is well known as a time of personal reinvention. According to US News, 80% of New Year's resolutions have failed by February. Why is this? We get sucked back into unconscious programming. We let ourselves believe our thoughts that something is “too difficult” or there is “just no time right now”. Or that drinking too much wine with our friends every weekend is “fun”, even though we feel like total crap the next day. So, it’s easier and more comfortable to go back to the world we know and are used to rather than navigating two worlds until the new world is integrated in our lives.
Mark Manson recently wrote an excellent article on how to deal with loss. When we make a decision to change our lives, what we often don’t realize is that we are also electing to let something go. For example, if you are choosing to lose weight and get healthy, you are not only losing the weight, you are also deciding to let go of the less optimal version of you. This becomes a loss just like any other loss in your life. You are losing a part of your identity, the less healthy version of you.
Now, some of you might say “Good riddance, I don’t want that version of me anymore.” But, think about this for a minute. What else are you losing here? You are also losing a part of the relationship you had with all of the other friends and family in your life who are also struggling with healthy habits. Didn’t you all bond to some extent over your unhealthiness? Whether it be in your food choices when you gathered (rich foods, alcohol, etc), or talking about how “hard it is to get healthy, lose weight and exercise?” What kind of conversations will you have with these people now? Will they resent or respect the new version of you? Will they want your advice or be saboteurs because they are still stuck on the same hamster wheel and want you right back there with them?
“The healthy response to loss is to slowly but surely construct new relationships and bring new meaning into one’s life. We often come to refer to these post-loss periods as “a fresh start,” or “a new me,” and this is, in a literal sense, true. You are constructing a “new you” by adopting new relationships to replace the old.” Mark Manson
I recently watched the Emoji movie with my kids. At that point, I had been on a Facebook break for a week. I had this big aha moment while watching it; we really do live simultaneously in these alternate worlds. When I left Facebook, I felt like I had lost a version of myself. Just like the protagonist of Emoji had left the world where he was an abnormal emoji, I had left the world where I could perfectly curate my Facebook persona. I was left with myself in the real world where I was working my way through a nutritional cleanse and all of the physical and emotional detox that goes along with that. At first, I felt sadness from the loss, then the fear of missing out started kicking in, but after about 10 days, I didn’t even think about it much anymore. I realized that the world still turned, I could still meet new people and form and maintain relationships without social media. Crazy huh?
To be successful with navigating your personal expansion; whether you are focusing on improving your nutrition, career or relationships; is to cultivate the conscious awareness that any change you implement in your life always involves some sort of loss. This way, you will not be blindsided when the natural resulting grief of that loss comes calling to be felt and released. And the key to bridging your old identity with the new is not necessarily abandoning old friends or relationships (although this is sometimes required), but reframing your relationships to include the newer integration of yourself.
We are all part of a larger organism. And just as cells, organs and glands all play a role in the greater body consciousness, we play a role in the more expanded systems of society and human consciousness. So, bettering yourself on an individual level is contributing to society in a very legitimate way. Your friends and family will be the first to feel the higher vibration, but when you inspire them, they will start to contemplate change and then the ripple effect kicks in. The best way to make decisions for yourself is to listen to your inner GPS. Just as biochemical systems enlist the nature of homeostasis, we have a nearly identical emotional balance point. This is why we can always feel it in our body when something is not right for us, although many a logical mind will try to shut this innate warning signal out.
So, why would our mind dismiss our body signals? Attachments. Attachment to an old self who was miserable, yet comfortable and complacent. Dependency on an old relationship that is no longer expansive and enlightening, but so much time and years of effort have gone into it. Addiction to an identity as a corporate businessperson and the money and perks that come along with that, even though being a writer is the big dream. Feeling the need to please our parents or society by acting a certain way or making agreements that are not in congruence with our true selves. As you may notice here, addictions and attachments are not so different. They both characterize the subconscious emotional need to fill a void with something versus experiencing true alignment with it. You will pinpoint the variance once you start consistently synchronizing with your intuition. The easiest way to identify alignment? Wanting versus needing something. Know the difference. Your ego will try to trick you, so pay attention to your body and heart language, not just your mind.
Ready to unrobot? Here's a cheat sheet:
Become conscious of your addictions and attachments, so that you can tune in to where you want to create change in your life.
Realize that loss is a part of any change and be prepared to feel some resistance and/or sadness about it as well as the need to create new types of relationships with this understanding.
Living nutrition (whole foods, pesticide-free diet), physical exercise and mental/emotional fitness is the trifecta of achieving a vital life.
Surround yourself with people who support your growth and who are on the same path of expansion.
Make decisions based on emotional alignment, not emotional void or logic alone. Listen to what your body is saying. Meditation is the best way I know to master this.
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Good luck and may your life force be with you.